So. I am inspired these days to ponder issues of sexuality in general, and these issues as they apply to those of the Christian persuasion in particular.
I'm bothered by the idea that Christians, especially women, are supposed to have some sort of stifled, boring sexual identity. In general, I think we are seen (as far as the world at large is concerned) as chaste, proper creatures that aren't supposed to talk about sex, think about it or really enjoy it.
I disagree.
All my adult life, for whatever reason, I have seen no reason not to talk about sex. I have discussed it in detail with male and female friends, and I've never felt like I shouldn't. It's a fascinating and fun topic and I learn just as much as I share. The truth is that sex exists in the life of every single person we see and it doesn't much matter if we prefer to pretend that's not the case, as we often do. I'm not saying I wonder about the sexual escapades of my coworkers (just occasionaly) or that I imagine every person I see in the grocery store naked, I'm just saying that sex is part of all of us.
I often wonder about the parts of our sexual identity that we hide. Why are we driven to hide our fantasies, fetishes, or preferences from others? Is it society? Media? Family or friends? I'm not sure, but I'd like to find out!
I think just the idea of sharing your kink may be a turn off for some.... maybe just having your kink *be* taboo is a turn on? Stating your innermost desires out loud may be the thing that turns you off of that desire? I don't think it's a Chiristian thing, I think it's a human thing.
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